far flung friday: chart your course

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day one of my formal (or informal..depending upon how you look at it) mrs development. In an effort to bring some organization to this process…i should probably lay out exactly how, in my infinite wisdom…I intend to become this more well rounded mrs…

after much reflection about the elements I feel are important to growth (both individual and partner)…I’ve decided to focus on 6 areas. I realize there are others out there who might disagree on/or have suggestions about my method but…yipee…glorious blog oh mine…they just don’t matter :) so here’s how it’s gonna go… each day of the week is going to be dedicated to one particular area of development. As someone who was grossly short changed in the attention span department, I figure breaking it down in tiny, daily, manageable bits should work well for me…and hopefully my marriage too..

1. whatever makes me happy monday – why? Because its monday and I don’t really like mondays. so in an effort to like mondays more …I’m going to be a tad selfish and tart them up a bit by only posting things that bring me…me, me, me, me, me only, pure, unadulterated joy.
2. bon vivant tuesday: literally french for “good liver”, and who doesn’t have room in their life for some more good livin?? delicious food + delightful drink = good livin to me. so tuesdays are all about epicurean treats me and my mr can indulge in together.
3. work it out wednesday: ahh, relationship day. i’d like to say my focus will be solely on the mrs + mr relationship but hey, i'm a mess and me + my parents and me + my friends need work too…
4. thursdays child….has far to go: and an unlimited amount of ground to cover! so thursday is about new ideas, new books, new ways of thinking...just about anything new that i haven’t tried before… why? cuz no one likes to see couples having dinner that can't think of a single thing to say to one another but instead seem overly interested in their...soup.
5. far flung friday: today is a day to grab my mr and a glass of vino and dream, dream, dream. while exotic locals always get my blood pumping, it doesn’t take a lot of $ to take a mental getaway. so friday is all about feeling a bit childlike and thinking up ways to escape...together.
6. bloggers rest saturday: day of reflection to see if i've bitten off more than i can chew with this daily blog.
7. spirit sunday: just seems like a natural fit don’t ya think? So sunday is all about spirituality + connectedness and anything that helps me feel centered and connected to the world at large.

ok…that’s it for the day…I’ll leave my silent cyber world with its first official far flung friday post…it's a short one, but honestly, organizing the above wore me out. i promise/hope they'll be funnier/more thought provoking/interesting sunday.

http://www.verana.com/ where the mr and I honeymooned in early april.

mrs m


in the beginning

...there was melanie.

in high school there was lacrosse player melanie, slumber party with my friends and get high on pixie sticks melanie and even for a short, short...short period of time, thespian melanie. then there came fresh faced, tri-delta college student at the college of charleston melanie...until junior year melanie decided she didn't want to be a pearl wearing, sorority focused melanie any more and became more of an introspective melanie. after that it was move to chicago on a whim melanie. i liked that melanie. she was fun, easy to get along with...perhaps a little lost in the soul but up for anything melanie. and for eight years there was career woman, international tourism melanie...and in between there was any variation of daughter melanie, girlfriend melanie, friend melanie, travel lover melanie, mistake maker melanie, risk taker melanie (think bungee jumper, sky diver melanie....unfortunately we might have seen the last of that particular mel)...and in fact myriad of other melanies.

but there was never married melanie.

until now. and this is definitely new territory for melanie.

so this site is dedicated to finding out whom exactly this new melanie is and who she will become. it's an attempt at being proactive. at taking the reins of a new life in an attempt to steer ones destiny rather than be steered. it is an exploration in finding a balance between ms. melanie (of a more solo, independent, rolling stone, youngsish nature) & mrs. melanie (1/2 of a whole, responsible, connected, more mature adult sort).

the interesting realization that has developed since ms. morphed to mrs., just one short month ago, is this....i really want to like this new melanie. i see her as kind of a blank slate...like a new year...all fresh and full of possibilities. and with the excitement that comes with a new year and a new life comes new goals and resolutions. i don't typically like the word "goals", so i'll say this instead.... my desire for this melanie is she be the kind of melanie you can talk to about your most problematic dilemmas (be it boy, spirit or other) because...damn...melanie is a really good listener. i desire to be proud of this melanie and her relationship with her sexy, amazing husband (that would be chris)...i want her to be a happy and healthy on the inside and out melanie and not only that, i want her to be a community connected melanie (just not in a hemped out, over the top goodie goodie way...as melanie will always always be interested in fashion melanie)...i also want her to be the kind of melanie you just can't throw a fabulous party without...but that's just melanie "*needs " shining though.

this site has risen from the ashes of the ms. with the intent to be a checks and balances system for the mrs. it is a way to hold the ms. and the mrs. (because let's face it...melanie will always be a mixture of the two) accountable for her thoughts and her actions...to make sure she grows as individual melanie and also learns how to become a relatively decent married melanie in the process. ok…enough of the third person, i think you get my drift.

i am married melanie and this is my blog.

join me tomorrow as i launch to the world (ok...just to myself) my seven step program for becoming the mrs i always dreamed of.

*footnote * "needs" is a catch all phrase for any time melanie is feeling needy. sometimes she just says to chris, "NEEDS"!!! translation...i'm desperately desiring some attention from you so if you know what's good for ya...you'll give me some.